Lately, I’ve been thinking about all of the things I wish were different, better. I very rarely take a moment and reflect on the good things. It’s much easier to focus on what you don’t have, thus overlooking the good things you actually do have.
I’m going to just go ahead and take a few moments here in this space to do just that.
- I have a wonderful, talented, smart, attractive, loving husband. I’m so lucky to have found someone as terrific as Jason, especially when I wasn’t sure I’d ever find someone as special as he is.
- I have three amazing children. While they’re crazy far from perfect (believe me, I know just how NOT close to perfect they are) they each have qualities I admire deeply.
- My eldest daughter is outgoing, fun loving, and has a desire to live life to the fullest daily. That lust for life is often what gets her in trouble these days, though I’m sure it will serve her well as she’s enters into adulthood. She’s an extrovert; something I’ve never been able to call myself.
- My middle child, my son, is smart as hell. School comes easy to him. He struggles a little with language arts now and then, but on the whole, he sails through school with ease. School was a constant struggle for me.
- My littlest daughter is independent and brave. She’s got guts I still don’t possess. This was revealed to us once we started taking her to Disneyland regularly. There are very few rides she won’t at least try out. She may not like it and will refuse to something a second time, but she’s gotten on rides I wouldn’t get on until my teen years. I’m constantly amazed by her bravery.
- After 2 bouts of unemployment within the last year, my husband is employed. So many people are still looking after being out of work for so long. It may not be a perfect job, but he seems to enjoy it.
- My family is healthy
- We have a roof over our head, even if it’s one we don’t own.
- We have 2 cars, one of which we own outright.
- Even though my first marriage didn’t work out, I gained a a family I will belong to for life. They love me as if I were their own flesh and blood. And even better than that? They love my husband the same way. My littlest is as much a family member as if she were born with their blood running through her veins. It doesn’t matter to them that I’m the ex. We’re family.
- I’m a pretty good cook. This is a skill I pretty much taught myself. It isn’t because my mom didn’t try, she did. I just wasn’t interested in learning when she tried to teach me.
- My husband has taken on the role of sole provider so I can be here at all times to see the kids into adulthood. We struggle with money because of this decision, yet somehow, we manage to pay what needs to be paid. Although I think my oldest would disagree at this point in her life, I feel that *my* kids are better off than if *I* went to work. (I’d like to state that this decision isn’t right for everyone and that a working mom’s kids are worse off than mine because they have a working mother. I just feel this is the best decision for OUR family)
- I have the ability to make pretty jewelry that some people are even willing to pay for. I hope someday to help provide for an income in our family through my jewelry sales.
- I have good friends that I love and love me in return.
I’m sure I could go on and on, but I think this is a good start. I hope you take a few moments to reflect on the good things you DO have, instead of dwelling on the things you wish you had.